"What is the difference between internalized vs. externalized PDA from a parent perspective? 🧐 Gentle reminder that a child or teen can absolutely be both - for example, “externalized” at home and “internalized” at school. This video is an oversimplification for clarity. These are the patterns I have noticed after working with 100s of families with PDA children and teens. And these are reminders I have to give myself often. It is a daily mindset practice for me. What shifts for you when you rea

You are not alone. This is a very common experience among parents of “externalized” PDA children or teens. But consistent accommodations over the long term can reduce this behavior and help your child stay in their thinking brain 🧠 Want to work with me and a community of other parents who understand what you’re taking on - because they are too - to learn and implement strategies to support your PDA child or teens nervous system? Comment “PSP” below and we’ll send you the link to add yourself to

Is your child or teen an externalized expression of PDA (fight/flight) or more (freeze/fawn)? Two things to remember, it can be a mix! And equalizing behavior for an intenalized expression of PDA can be turned towards self (e.g. hitting oneself, cutting, restricting one's own eating, staying up late to get back to a place of nervous system safety, destroying one's own things, etc). I often see parents come into my coaching practice and programs with internalized experssions later (tweens and tee