If you’ve ever questioned whether you’re the problem in an emotionally abusive relationship, you’re not alone. Emotional abuse is a repeated pattern of manipulation, blame, and disrespect for your boundaries. When your needs and limits are constantly ignored, it’s natural to reach a breaking point and react in ways that feel out of character. This is called reactive abuse and it’s not the same as being emotionally abusive. Understanding these patterns can help you recognise what’s really happeni